Most of us have been involved in at least one wonderful relationship in our lives – one where everything is going so well we cannot believe our good fortune. Then, out of the blue, everything seems to start to fall apart because your boyfriend wants his space. There are many possible reasons for why your boyfriend may suddenly be needing some time apart, such as issues with the family, personal inadequacies, or even a fear of committing to you. His recent change of heart may be so abrupt that you may be asking yourself the age old question “Is my boyfriend a good match for me?”
Here are 5 tips for rekindling his love:
1 – It is important that you retain your self-respect and not allow his recent cooling off of his feelings to get the best of you. There is no question that you are still in love with him (or you would not be reading this). Hint: it may be smart to play a little bit hard-to-get in order to prove to him that a would-be breakup would be his loss.
2 – If you feel that your boyfriend still has warm feelings toward you deep down, then it may be wise for you to engage him in regular conversation. Avoid going into too much detail when talking about the issues you face in your own relationship – you want to keep things relatively light. Short phone calls or online chats are smart ways to remind him of your value to him as a girlfriend. You want to avoid overwhelming him – since he likely needs some time to himself right now.
3 – If your boyfriend really is a good match for you, he will begin to show significant interest in your relationship. Communicating with him regularly will give you the chance to talk about old times together. Keep in mind that you should focus primarily on all of the good memories associated with your life together so far. While reviving your boyfriend’s feelings for you as you reminisce together, be sure to avoid talking about the less favorable experiences. This is the time to focus on the positive.
4 – If you think that there is a chance that your boyfriend is a good match, you need to “roll with the punches” in terms of his feelings for you as of late. Either your boyfriend really is not interested in pursuing your relationship – or he really does need some time to himself right now and you should give him some space. On the other hand, if your actions of reconciliation (see above) seem to be having a positive effect – no matter how slowly it is working – he is likely a good match for you. You should continue with your efforts to revive his feelings for you.
5 – If your boyfriend is giving you the right signs, try really opening your heart to him. Let him know how you feel, but of course you need to not appear needy to him. If your boyfriend is showing you at this point that he wants to rekindle your relationship, it is likely that he is a good match for you. At that point, it would be a healthy choice to be open with him. On the other hand, if he is showing mixed signals or is outright negative about the relationship after your recent efforts, the two of you may not be a good match. Or, he may just need more time to himself. Either way, it is definitely a sign for you to back off a bit right now.
These are just the first steps you should take to determine if your boyfriend is a good match for you and, if so, how to recapture his interest. I learned most of what I know from professional relationship gurus.
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Separating with your ex can be a very heart wrenching experience. Like a lot of men and women who have just been through a spilt u, you are probably at a total loss of what you need to do next.
Well, this is very understandable. Regardless of who initiated the breakup, a break up can be a devastating blow to many men and women. Yesterday, you can be happily chatting to your lover. The next day, the love of your life makes up his or her mind to break up with you.
Anyone who has ever gone through a spilt up will without a doubt understands this experience. In the article that follows, you will learn some tips that will hopefully help you in winning your ex back. Read on to learn more!
Breaking up can be a very devastating experience for anyone. Perhaps, after your break up, you did not give up on wooing your ex back. Eventually, you did manage to get back together with your ex.
So, now that you have managed to get back together with your ex, what should you do?
This question above is something that you need to answer. Remember, you have broken up before. You do not want the same thing to happen again, now that you have gotten back together with your ex.
Well, here are a few tips that you should consider after getting back together with your ex.
1) Sit Down And Talk
Yes, communication is vital. There is a reason why both of you break up in the first place. Therefore, it is really important that both of you sit down and resolve any lingering issues. If there is something that you need to change, be it your attitude or habit, work on changing it.
Your partner should also be willing to make the necessary changes too. Ultimately, a relationship is something that requires both people to work hard on.
2) Respect Each Other
Being in a relationship does not mean that both of you have lost yourself. You and your ex are still very much a single person, with his or her individual needs. It is great to do things together but it is equally important to have your own privacy at times.
3) Support Each Other
One of the greatest benefits of a relationship is that you know there will always be someone to stand by you whenever you are facing any difficulties. Same thing for your partner. When your partner needs support, you should be there to give it. Supporting each other at critical times will only make both of you love each other more.
This is one of the first things the church is probably supposed to teach after being born again. One of the rooted things that secures us to our Father. The bible is written to two kinds of people, there really are only two kinds of people in the earth, those lost dead spiritually, and sons of God. The Ones who have made a Mature decision to Reject Salvation We are not supposed to worry about.
So lets go to the word of God and become more of who we are supposed to be.
John 1;12-13
12 But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name:
God gives us a place, gave us a ‘right’ to become children of God if we truly believe in His name. The name of Jesus is supposed to contain all the character that person is and does. Now do we believe that because of HIS name we are born of God. Do we know what it means how to be born again.
13 who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.
Now, this choosing to be right doesn’t work, the blood in you doesn’t work. Just because you are hear does not give it to you. Who you are does not give it to you, You of Your Blood has no right to this. It can’t be of the will of our flesh no matter how much we want to be right…. It’s not about how I feel, or hate, or want in any area. It’s not about being born good, kinda good, I’m this or I’m that–that is not going to work. It’s about His ‘Way’ for us to choose what He has done. So HE gave us a right to choose to let HIM bring us to birth. It has to be an absolute Faith the way God says it has to be done to be born again. Repent for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand. When God says were not right with HIM that’s it but He gives us the ability to choose to be BORN by HIM again. And when we choose to really repent and BE BORN of GOD – then we are in the family. Not to say something so I can get away with some Sin! Some people are using what I call fire insurance salvation and they are not born again. They haven’t made a quality decision to trust God for a complete change with junk and everything in them and not about the good getting me to heaven. Good takes you to Hell in this context. You must have a Change you trust from God not from Works! We become right and live right with God not our own ideas of right and wrong. And some are self-righteous people who want to JUDGE PEOPLE. They don’t’ want to go to hell but they aren’t really born again, the same old nature really doing the same old self-righteous things maybe using good to justify themselves and judging others.
All have sinned and have fallen short of the grace of God.
If any believes in His heart and confesses with his mouth that Jesus is Lord shall be saved. Not Believing I’m going to get away from sinning but that God can Change me and I can see it all the way through and see the Change from God not self righteous acts.
When you say Lord are you trying to get away with anything????
Now If we are born again we are going to have struggles we are going to find out that this sin nature was a hiding piece of garbage that manipulates to get it’s own way whether good or bad.
But being BORN AGAIN IS THE GREATEST THING AND TO HAVE CONVICTION AND POWER FROM OUR FATHER AND THE LOVE THAT BYPASSES ALL SIN TO SAVE US AND NOT KILL US AS WE ARE TRYING TO GROW IS SO SO AMAZING!! BECAUSE WE START TO UNDERSTAND WHAT THAT SIN NATURE REALLY IS-BORN FROM HELL AND JUST TRYING TO LOOK GOOD.
BUT WE GROW! THIS IS A TRUE SIGN OF A SON.
BUT HERE IS A GREAT POINT A CHILD IS TO BECOME A MATURE PERSON SO YOU AS A PARENT CAN HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM ON A HIGHER MORE FULLER LEVEL. DEEPER AND STRONGER IN WAYS AND SUPSTANCE. ALWAYS ENJOYING CHILDREN BUT GROWING SO WE CAN ENJOYING MATURITY AND HAVING CHILDREN IN CONFIDENCE. TO BECOME A SON!!!1 IS WHAT THE FATHER IS AFTER.
Lets go ON!!!!
Eph 1:3-12
3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ,
How big is this verse, do you need peace not a wish. do you need a real future not a fleeting I’m trying. Do yo need love in you so you don’t judge hatefully, do you need to know and have provision in this earth. So if you don’t know how far this verse goes and others that God says how are you going to get them in your heart and know that God is going to bring something to pass.
4 just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love,
He says He can do it. Now either God is lying or HE is telling the truth and we need to spend time with HIM and change and allow what HE reveals to us to happen. Not how we want to read the scriptures but how HIS HOLY SPIRIT reveals it.
“When the spirit of truth comes He will lead and guide into all truth.”
5 having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will,
We have been set up by God to get born again and to MATURE.
PREDESTINED! set up to choose the best!!! and empowered to do it.
Now Children in the old testament were trained until they became mature enough to take over the fathers business. A child is always a child, a Son chooses to be a Son.
6 to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved.
7 In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace
We are accepted-no Guilt, shame, fear, condemnation when we go to HIM. Those are tools of the devil to keep you defeated. Sin and the enemy is going to produce wickedness, fear and condemnation to keep you bound to your sin. Shame and guilt can kill you or an area of healing and restoration that we need.
Grace, Grace, Grace is power it isn’t sloppy, it gives us ability, it is ability of and from God. That’s not our own but we get it. We get to KNOW BEING SAVED FROM SIN AND TO BEABLE TO LIVE. BY GRACE. NOT JUDGEMENT.
I HEARD THE VOICE OF JESUS SPEAK TO ME IN THE SPIRIT ONE TIME. “DON’T BE AFRAID OF ANY SIN, I’M NOT AFRAID!” That was one of the most comforting power and voices I have ever heard so far more than I can comprehend. God is eternal it is never about a lack of Grace, HE is eternal. We just get so hard we don’t or can’t choose to let HIM.
8 which He made to abound toward us in all wisdom and prudence,
We can walk whatever part out that HE is leading us to or we are dealing with it not out of a right heart of His Salvation condemning other areas to make this one area look good but we really don’t want to be Saved or Saved in that area. But it is a WALK, a WORKING out. Sometimes Faith is just believing and sometimes you have some feet work to put to it to get the outcome.
Look at some scriptures of John the Baptist
7 But when he saw many of the Pharisees and Sadducee s coming to his baptism, he said to them, “Brood of vipers! Who warned you to flee from the wrath to come? 8 Therefore bear fruits worthy of repentance, 9 and do not think to say to yourselves, ‘We have Abraham as our father.’ For I say to you that God is able to raise up children to Abraham from these stones. 10 And even now the ax is laid to the root of the trees. Therefore every tree which does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.
Don’t bear any fruit you were probably lying to yourself.
9 having made known to us the mystery of His will, according to His good pleasure which He purposed in Himself,
10 that in the dispensation of the fullness of the times He might gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven and which are on earth—in Him.
God has one plan for HIS children, one faith one kingdom, and a kingdom has ways of doing things. HE has one Faith. HIS mystery, a big part of it is WE ARE BORN INTO A FAMILY OF GOD. WE ARE LIKE HIM IN SPIRIT AND OPERATE BY THE SAME RULES AS SONS.
11 In Him also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will,
His will not my Want, His Life not give me this or that lets Barter God. Even though He want’s so much to show how faithful He is He has to get some hateful wants out of us.
Now if it says we have stuff then we have stuff, all different kinds of stuff: But it is from His Life not our covetousness or fear that it is higher than His Life. He has stuff for the spirit, soul, and body. God is a holistic God. All through the bible HE has been this way.
12 that we who first trusted in Christ should be to the praise of His glory.
ARE WE WILLING TO TRUST HIM SO WE CAN MATURE AND WALK IN MORE OF THIS SONSHIP – BEARING FRUIT IN EVERY AREA OF OUR LIFE. HOW DO YOU SEE YOUR CHILDREN. JUST A BUNCH OF STUFF FOR THEM OR TO BE SOMETHING AND STUFF FOR THEM.
1 John 3:1-5 emphasize vr 5
1 Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! Therefore the world does not know us, because it did not know Him.
We can’t look at our salvation from the world view, you will be confused, hurt, mad. The world can’t comprehend us that well at all. They might catch glimmers, pieces of light but that is to draw them to be born again. When you are born again you are of a different kingdom=from heaven not earth. Now we have to learn how to live in, grow in, the new kingdom, the new being that we have become. And don’t get stuck in twala land either but Watch your heart that it doesn’t defile the Absoluteness of a Real God that does do the Miracles in Life. Keep your View from a Real God that will give you Understanding and Life of and from Heaven not earth.
2 Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is.
To become more and more like HIM, as you get to know HIM and His ways, as we walk with HIM and HIS Spirit we find we are getting to know HIM more—so we become like HIM. And the Day when we will completely see HIM in fullness and that light radiate in and through all our being. We will be like HIM. Don’t be afraid of losing anything here in earth. If it is Good for You don’t you think He wants it more for you than you do?
3 And everyone who has this hope in Him purifies himself, just as He is pure.
Now a real God kind of Hope is a security place that God will bring this to pass. So we cleanse ourselves in every area – because do you REALLY WANT TO BE PURE, DO YOU BELIEVE THAT THAT IS EVEN REAL? Can you Trust Him Here in this PURITY! Can you trust that it has Rewards or is it to be some isolated empty Life? What do you think if you believe in good yourself? Some areas might take some work and we might have some roller coaster rides—(been there done that and we know that that will happen once in a while) but inside we are getting ourselves clean for HIM, FOR US to know HIM. And there is joy and knowing of fruit in that area that is being produced!!!!!!!!! God is FAITHFULL
4 Whoever commits sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness.
5 And you know that He was manifested to take away our sins, and in Him there is no sin.
So we know we are going to have some problems with sin but we see that HE is bigger than the problem and can be fully relied on to take that sin desire, nature, way of us, out of us if we persist to let HIM remake us in growth !
Someone who wants to continually stay in an area of sin-that’s a dangerous place to be!!!!
Math 12:37
37 For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
See if you mean what you say and more than that Do you Really want God to Change you too and trust Him to do it. He will start the Process. It could be Beautiful, or Rough, or a mix but if you look it is starting to show you to trust the change and back it if it is you that has to change something or letting Him produce in you and your life. Or a mix of both ways together.
So are we going to choose to be genuine in our hearts and speak truthfully, are we really going to choose to be born again and to grow maturely or just play games with our mouths. Are we going to make some decision to quit doing wrong to spend time in prayer fellowshipping with God so He can clean and fill us with HIS salvation and study HIS Word to build us. Are we going to get rid of our fear, vindication, Godship that we want to be.
Proverbs 4:23, 18:20-21
23 Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it springs the issues of life.
Great men of God trusted HIM in their walk on the earth, even though they made mistakes they would turn and go father on in true repentance to make that life genuine in them and for God they really loved in the earth. They loved the Lord and trusted HIM to MAKE them clean Holy, acceptable to Himself. Can we do the same. Or are we just using fire insurance?
Proverbs 18:20-21
20 A man’s stomach shall be satisfied from the fruit of his mouth; From the produce of his lips he shall be filled.
21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.
Speak, make a decision for the Lord and HIS ways or for how you really want to be.
You will be tested for what you say!!!!!
Proverbs 15: 4,10
4 A wholesome tongue is a tree of life,
But perverseness in it breaks the spirit.
10 Harsh discipline is for him who forsakes the way,
And he who hates correction will die.
We learn as Sons, that correction, that my God if HE didn’t correct me I probably wouldn’t really trust HIM. And His correction even though it may seem grievous it actually produces a peace, a joy, a love, and secure salvation in us that cannot be compromised and lost. It produces beautiful fruit.
Are we going to choose to grow as Sons not just fake being born again or be born again and use it as an excuse for sin.
They are so many more good things from the lord in blessing and walking with HIM. He created life and life more abundantly. Is He lying or not. It can usually be a couple of areas of sin that have kept us from fully loving and making quality decision to trust God for His life to Us and how good it is. We become dull and blind and can’t even see the good even though we believe it because of the sin, or doubt, or fear.
But lets settle that and go ON TO SONSHIP THAT FAILTHFULL PLACE WHERE THE PROMISES COME TO LIFE FOR YOU PERSONALLY, FRUITFUL OF LOVE, OF INTEGRITY THAT IS OF THE GOD KIND NOT SELFISH KIND, MECKNESS THAT IS NOT WEAKNESS AND LEARN, HUMBLENESS SO YOU CAN HAVE A REPORE WITH GENUINE GOOD OF GOD AND RELIENCE ON HIM AND HIS WAYS. KINDNESS BECAUSE WE SEE HIS KINDNESS TO US. WE COULD GO ON AND ON AND WE ARE SUSPOSED TO GO ON AND ON AND ON. ETERNAL GOD! HOW GOOD IS THIS FRUIT THAT HE IS PRODUCING IN US. DON’T PUT THE HUMAN KIND OF END ON SOMETHINGS, YOU’LL HURT YOURSELF!!!
1) “Blessed is the man
Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, “
There are ungodly—They do not know God at all nor have anything to do with HIM!!! Most everything they say will be selfish even when when they are talking about caring. You will not get clear good God kind of producing fruit for life in you or for you even if they have tib-bits of truth. A lie usually can have some form of truth in it to reel you in. All the things the devil Quoted to Jesus was truth-but out of context and used wrong and for wrong means. Are you tired of so called truth that just never seems to fulfill at all, no matter what you have.
“Nor stands in the path of sinners,”
There are sinners, those who are ungodly or know God and are apart of Him and keep choosing to disobey.
“Nor sits in the seat of the scornful;”
Sometimes will can feel so right and be so wrong, especially when it is about someoneles SIN. We don’t look through the Power of Salvation God wants it to be and give it to the ones in sin so they can change. And either we won’t say the right thing and we will scorn them in our hearts to justify ourselves. We look at the judgement and our snobbiness shines because we judge to make ourselves feel better, more righteous. We should let God judge, by His way of Spirit with His WORD.
Sometimes we scorn so we can just feel right about ourselves sinning!!!!!
YOU WANT TO BE GREAT—DON’T DO ALL THE ABOVE!!!!!
DON’T WORRY GOD ISN’T A LOOSER………and He won’t make you one either!!!!
I’ve heard Great men of God Quote, “You want to be great, speak evil of no man!” Didn’t let them sin by agreeing either!
Now look below at how the heart of man if it allows God to get his heart gets Blesssed. Remember!!!!! It can’t be an idea, either it is true or GOD IS A LIER—the above verses or the below verses. There are no compromises with truth. These verses are clear and true by HIS Spirit or they are us trying to get something.
2 “But his delight is in the law of the LORD,
And in His law he meditates day and night.”
What is the law of the Lord? Is it the 10 commandments, and all the other ordanineces that were spoken with them. How do we really see this. The law is pure. Principals of TRUTH—All ten some with promises attached to them. BUT IT IS THE SPIRIT THAT GIVES THEM LIFE IN A FALLING WORLD. The law is good to bring people to repentence and JOY to us who know how to walk in the fruit of the spirit because it brings reward of life.
3 “He shall be like a tree
Planted by the rivers of water,
That brings forth its fruit in its season,
Whose leaf also shall not wither;
And whatever he does shall prosper. “
4 The ungodly are not so,
But are like the chaff which the wind drives away.
5 Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment,
Nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.
6 For the LORD knows the way of the righteous,
But the way of the ungodly shall perish.
Is your heart scarred from all the heartaches from your failed past relationships? No matter how many relationships come and go, it seems that you’re becoming less and less inclined to take the men who come into your life seriously. It doesn’t even matter if they are very attractive and close to perfection – you just feel that a satisfying relationship is hard to come by.
This is perfectly acceptable, as this may be your way of licking your wounds. If you got hurt in the past, especially in your first relationship, then the normal reaction would be to run as far away as possible at the first sight of another possible hurt. The sad thing about this is that by being too careful, you may have associated love with the heartache you’ve experienced in the past. By coping this way, you may have unwittingly become afraid of loving as well. So every relationship that comes your way becomes less and less satisfying. If this manner of coping continues, you may never find that special relationship that you’ve been longing for.
What then should be your next step towards healing?
The answer is to love yourself again. Loving yourself is the most important step on the road to healing. There’s nothing you can do to change the past, so let go of it and embrace the blessings that the future has in store for you.
This may be easier said than done in the beginning, because there’s always that little voice inside you. It’s the same voice that warns you when you’re in danger of getting hurt again. But you need to realize that this voice can actually help you get into the relationship you’re looking for. The secret lies in not drowning out the voice, but by accepting and learning to love it.
Try this. Walk towards a wooden table at your home. Touch it with all the love that you can muster and say out loud:
“Table, I realize that you once lived in a beautiful forest. You did nobody harm, and yet you were cut, sawed, pounded, pressed and made into the table that you are now.”
“I am sorry that you had to go through all that. So let me take this opportunity to express my gratitude for everything that you’ve let me enjoy because of your sacrifice. You were always there for me when I needed you. For all the things you do for me, I thank you. I promise that I’ll always remember what a beautiful tree you once were.”
If you cry after doing this exercise, don’t worry – it’s the same humbling experience you feel when you mend relations with an old friend. This is something you can do with the voice inside you as well. Always remember that this voice means well and only wants the best for you. So appreciate it instead of suppressing it. Have you ever thanked that voice for protecting you? Learn to love it, and ignore it no more.
Others may find this exercise silly, but remember that when you’ve found peace inside yourself, peace with everything else will follow. When you’ve achieved this kind of peace, you’ll be able to find that satisfying, long-term relationship you’ve been waiting for.Are you afraid of being single forever? Aaron Adams specialises in relationship matters for women. Visit http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com for more relationship advice.
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